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I recently took a couple hours off life and watched the movie Bad Moms with a friend.
After watching that I felt like the worst mom on earth, because those “bad moms” in the movie were freaking super stars. But then I came home, my beautiful kids were sleeping soundly, all adorable and sweet and I realized I’ve got to be doing something alright.
Being a parent is exhausting, messy, amazing, beautiful and hard. There are so many that judge and try to advise, but no one can get everything ‘right’. In fact, I’m not sure there is a ‘right’ way to parent.
My teenager lives with her grandparents, because it’s best for her. She goes to school (mostly), she is healthy and kind and sweet and funny and weird and does minimal talking back.
My middle kids aren’t in sports, or a bunch of activities and once I’ve even lied about attending their Christmas concert…I couldn’t get the baby to settle down and I didn’t want to annoy the 500 other sweating parents forced to be crammed into a tiny gym, or embarrass my kids.
“You’re home all day you have tons of time to take the kids to sports and crafts and play dates!”
No, no I don’t have tons of time. My days are spent cleaning and supervising and laundry and house projects and kissing boo-boo’s and applying some kind of cold compress on kitten scratches and mosquito bites, and meal planning and feeding and, and, and, and then rushing off to work at 5pm.
But, they play outside with friends are happy and healthy, kind and caring and clean.Being a parent is exhausting, messy, amazing, beautiful and hard. Click To Tweet
The baby…there are SO MANY articles and blogs and other parents and even people who don’t have kids who try to tell me what is right and wrong. Honestly, I listen to ‘advise’ if I ask for it.
The baby is 1 now; I’ve done ok so far. I let him get dirty, I let him chew on stuff, I let him do his funny little snake walk all over the house chasing kittens. When he couldn’t hold stuff, I strapped him in his chair and propped up a bottle so I could do dishes or go to the bathroom alone. We rock him to sleep, he gets a bottle before bed and I let him play with my keys.
I sound awful right? Worst mom ever!
But you know what… they’re all healthy kids!
Even though they are allowed peanut butter and the occasional cookie, and sometimes we are a bit too loud when we get annoyed, they are healthy kids.
I get weird looks when someone asks me what the kids had for lunch and I tell them a smoothie and cookies. Instant judgment! Let me explain what a smoothie and cookies are when I’m in charge.
- Orange juice
That is a pretty good meal in itself I think.
The cookies I made were bizarre but I called them cookies so they were eaten up right quick.
- Peanut butter
- Kabocha squash
- A sprinkle of cinnamon.
The smoothie and cookies together make for a pretty balanced meal.
The same person who frowned and made faces when I told them what the kids ate, fed their kids McDonald’s for lunch…McDonald’s to me roughly translates to:
But I didn’t judge, they were in a hurry for sport practice. Going to the drive-thru is way easier and faster that chopping and blending and baking.
I’m a ‘bad mom’ and I’m ok with how ‘wrong’ I’m bringing up my kids.
Thank God for grandparents! Just saying!